This one was cooking before the second, but it’s taking me this long to get around to writing it! In all of my stewing around about friendship and lack of it in my life, things unusual, for me, have been going on. What made me observe them was a video I watched of a young pastor who goes to Scotland from America to serve for a term. I have posted it on FB a coup!e of times and it’s called Godspeed or Living Godspeed. The result of that, for me, was to endeavor to be available for whatever comes my way. Sometimes friendship is just a chat with a stranger, or showing kindness when and where I am able to, like alerting the neighbors to street cleaning day (and they return the favor!). I am not the only one who likes to be visited, so I have a couple of regular visits I make, and I feel I am the beneficiary.
People ask me what I do, since I am not working. I have felt my fingers uncurl from what I think thing must be, to stretch my mind into what can be. I say I do whatever comes to hand. That sounds awfully abstract, but here is the thing. I can’t make anyone be my friend. I can just be available. I have ceased thinking in terms of what I can orchestrate and produce, but endeavor to be alert to the need of the day. I do have a routine, but I hold it loosely. I don’t run out of things to do. Currently, I have knitting and sewing projects for other people. Yesterday I made Christmas cookies with my grandson. We both had fun! I think it has been years since I made Christmas cookies.
So …. featur ed friendships that have come my way. Hav e been my neighbors. I have often depended on my church for friendship, which is a good thing, and barely known my neighbors, not a good thing. I’ve mentioned them before. I still love them. Long chats out in the garden with passersby may not be the typical friendship, but a feeling of kinship passes through us and hugs are exchanged. We have friends we call our “fun friends”, a young family that has waltzed into our lives and when we are looking for somebod y to do something fun with, they grab their babies and come along! Then there are cousins who stay in touch and my kids ,whom I have always considered my friends. Recently, middle daughter moved from about 35 minutes away to 10. This gives us opportunity for a quick walk, a cup of tea. I think life has been less lonely for both of us. I can play her musicteacherhusband ‘s nice piano or rattle around on his Orff instruments while I’m at it!I
I turned 60 this fall and think it is my prerogative to choose the speed at which I live. So I’m choosing Godspeed, and so I bid you….https://www.livegodspeed.org/watchgodspeedhttps://www.livegodspeed.org/watchgodspeed